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This is a song based on an affair I never had with a woman who doesn't exist who I used to meet in a bar that's not real somewhere in Tupelo, which is real, but not as cool as you'd think the city where Elvis was born and raised would be.

And I'm doing my best to channel Tom Waits.
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E-mail To An Old Lover I Haven’t Seen In Years Who Sent A Friend Request on Facebook

©2011 Joseph Gurner

It’s been so many years since the last time we spoke
I almost don’t know where to begin
So much has happened. My life has changed. So many stories have gone untold
It seems kinda pointless to tell it all

I guess the last time I saw you was in that bar in Tupelo
How long did we meet there each Friday night?
Six fourty five, our regular table, first drink always on me

Kentucky bourbon, no ice, gin and tonic for you

So many nights we’d sit there and unload all our burdens
Or maybe not say a word at all
We laughed until we cried or cried behind our laughter
Reaching out the only way we knew how

The world seemed so much colder out side that dirty window
Some times I wish we could have stayed inside for ever
But every time I made you smile, there was a little warmth inside me

Or maybe it was the bourbon... I don’t know

I know you couldn’t say goodbye and you’d know I’d never ask you
When I saw that empty table, I just knew
Weeks went by and each Friday night, the table stayed empty
In time I quit looking to see who came in through the door

It seems that you are happy. You’ve got your life together
Married. Divorced. And Children. A new city. New job
It seems we’ve both gone far from that table in the corner
But some times it still seems like we never left

I’d love to say that life’s been great But I know you’d know I’m lying
The cats are dead. I moved again. There’s a hole in the roof.
I can’t say it’s all been bad. Just life’s hills and valleys
But it seems some days the sun don’t come up at all

For a while it was a struggle to wake up every morning
But I got up and forced myself through each day
I have to say I’m happy now, or happy as I get
I’ve made it throught the hard parts so far

When you left, I didn’t look for you. I know that’s what you wanted.
Or maybe I just tell myself becasue it’s what I want to hear
I could tell your smile was hding, you pain that last night I saw you
Your eyes said what you couldn’t say. They told me goodbye

So many old memories have come back to the surface
The tears and the laughter feel just like yesterday
From time to time I’d think about you. What I’d say if I found you
But right now writing ll these things down, nothing sounds quite right

It’s so great to hear from you, is the lie I’ll tell for now
Let’s catch up. Write back to me. Tell me how you’ve been
We’ll share the little mundane things we share with other strangers
Then laught at the funny stories, meaningless and true

So please don’t take this the wrong way. I don’t think I want to do this
It seems so impersonal.Desperate and cold.
I know you’re only saying goodbye the way you never could
Wrapped up in hello, it’s been too long...

We had our moment and it went past. we can’t go there again.
And I don’t want just a shadow of you.
Just remember all the comfort we found in each other
At that table in that little bar somewhere in Tupelo
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Uploaded: Jul 11, 2011 - 07:21:05 PM
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davisamerica said 2811 days ago (July 11th, 2011)
the ghost of tom waits...
you just are on fire recently joe... damn cool track and a download!
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jgurner said 2810 days ago (July 12th, 2011)
I feel like...
...I've been slacking off compared to earlier this year. Not too much new stuff in the past few months. But I guess sometimes it's best to let the creative juices recharge.

Glad you enjoyed it, Jack. Thanks for listening and downloading!
mowguy3 said 2811 days ago (July 11th, 2011)
Smokey and layed back
sound. Great write and nailed the vox. Perfect for this style track. Love it,thanks for the dl..
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jgurner said 2810 days ago (July 12th, 2011)
Nothing like a little smoke
Tried hard to get the feel of a small, dark, smokey hole-in-the-wall bar. The kind where no one ever goes to for any thing good.

Thanks for downloading! Glad you liked it.
alackbass said 2811 days ago (July 11th, 2011)
E-mail To An Old Lover I Haven’t Seen In Years Who Sent A Friend Request on Facebook
What a great idea for a song. And the decision to do it in a Tom Waits conversational way is perfect. The backing track is delicate and beautiful. The bass line is stellar. It's a melody all by itself. God I hate FaceBook! But I love this song!
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jgurner said 2810 days ago (July 12th, 2011)
The Bass is the Star
I've had the lyrics for a couple of months and the piano chords, but it didn't come together until I started noodling around on the bass. I got a basic line and sat down and just kind of played around it, letting the bass line wander and once I got it, the rest fell into place in a day.

Facebook to me is one of those things like a cell phone: It can be useful, but damn, it's really annoying sometimes. While the story in the song is, mostly, not true, the idea was spurred by a friend request I received a few months ago, so, I guess it's worth something.

Thanks for stopping by!
Vic Holman said 2811 days ago (July 11th, 2011)
did you kidnap tom waites?

and are we sure that tupelo really exists, i've never been there

the music track is great and quite the story in the lyrics
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jgurner said 2810 days ago (July 12th, 2011)
You haven't missed much
By never visiting Tupelo. It's about an hour away now, but I used to live in the area. They love to leech off Elvis' popularity, but if he were alive today, they'd never let him set foot inside the city limits.

But, the name of the town is fun to use in songs.

Glad you like it! Thanks for listening.
magnatone said 2811 days ago (July 11th, 2011)
joe, this is frickin' brilliant! what an excellent idea, and i think tom's got nothing on you!
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jgurner said 2810 days ago (July 12th, 2011)
Thanks Karen!
It was definitely interesting to work on lyrically and vocally. Trying to be more free with the lyrics, not really tied to a structure was an interesting experiment. Glad it worked out as well as it did.

And glad you enjoyed. As always, thanks so much for your support!
ktb said 2810 days ago (July 12th, 2011)
That title guaranteed a listen, but I'm glad I did. Cool progression.
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jgurner said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
The title came first...
Or, rather the title was the original idea I had for the song and, after working on the lyrics, I decided that a couple of words for a title wouldn't work.

Thanks for listening John. Glad you enjoyed it.
Lightman- said 2809 days ago (July 13th, 2011)
Raw voice
I really like the sound of the vocals.. Cool raw sound....
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jgurner said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
Definitely raw
Not my normal vocal style, but it was aided by a touch of allergies. :)

Thanks for taking a listen!
davisamerica2 said 2809 days ago (July 13th, 2011)
Great story, Joseph
This was my first trip to Tupelo, but I felt I was definitely there. Your voice gave the perfect flavor. The mood of the music, intoxicating. Great post. Terry
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jgurner said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
Thanks Terry!
Most of the time I try for a particular mood I have in mind and I usually miss, sometimes by a mile. But this time I nailed exactly how I wanted the story to come across, so I'm pretty happy with it.

And if you ever make it to Tupelo, I'll give you a guided tour of all the interesting spots. And after that 15 minutes is up...

Glad you enjoyed the tune!
dave_b said 2809 days ago (July 13th, 2011)
E-mail To An Old Lover
I like the conversational lyric and the gruff vocals. I can relate to the situation, I recently connected to my high school girlfriend on FB.
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jgurner said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
Gotta love Facebook
It's such a great way to reconnect with all those people in our lives that we really don't need to reconnect with. I think everyone who uses it has encountered this kind of thing to one degree or another. Sometimes it's okay. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes it's just best to fall off the face of the Earth.

Glad you enjoyed the tune. Thanks for stopping by!
awigze said 2809 days ago (July 13th, 2011)
This aint Tom
This is Joe Gurner! love it. A song with the line, 'the cats are dead'.... well, its just got to be a lost at love song.
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jgurner said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
Thanks Andy!
While the whole story is more or less fiction, some of it's based on real life. "The cats are dead" line actually came from an incident during my divorce where I told the ex our cat we'd had for 13 years had died. Out of everything that went on, that particular conversation just sticks in my mind.

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for stopping by.
jiguma said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
Excellent post Joe!
I'm getting a Joe Walsh vibe for some reason - probably because I've never consciously heard Tom Waitts. This also has an Eagles-ish chord structure - not a bad thing at all to me. This is such a change from your typically rich harmonies, and for me it works exceptionally well. Nicely produced too, and suitably loose. Great story line too, and possibly the best song title in the entire history of MacJams!
Go Joe!
Cheers from Oz,
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jgurner said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
It's funny
That you mentioned Joe Walsh and The Eagles, because at one point while I was working on it, I had a couple of Eagles tunes going through my head, so it may have rubbed off. The chord structure and the key were interesting to work with. Near as I can tell, it's in the Key of B - five sharps - which made playing the piano and guitar parts a little interesting. If I'd tried to play in that key on the French horn, I would have killed myself.

Thanks for taking a listen, Neil! Glad you liked it!
RochaMalhada said 2807 days ago (July 15th, 2011)
Hotel California
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neilh79 said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
E-meil to an old lover I havent seen in years who sent a friend request on facebook
I really think this deserves a longer title but hey ho!! Awesome tune, really enjoyed this a lot, cracking vocal well done
jgurner said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
I'm taking notes from the William Faulkner School of Song Title Writing. I'll slowly work up to half a page. :)

Glad you liked the tune. Thanks for listening!
Bob Rodgers said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
great production, really love the bass and the tinkling piano is a nice touch.
Love your vocals and the laid back way you sing this, great lyrics too and I love the title.
Nice chord structure and very much enjoyed.

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Warren Smith said 2808 days ago (July 14th, 2011)
You had me with the title (which reminded me of a Shawn Phillips 1971 song "She Was Waiting For Her Mother At The Station In Torino And You Know I Love You Baby But It's Getting Too Heavy To Laugh" - just to drop a name) … and then hammered me with the description … before nailing me the actually performance.

Being able to reconnect with former friends and acquaintances … let alone former intimates … does offer up some unusual and potentially awkward situations. (There are a billion stories to be told in Facebook City … and this has been one of them.) I think you have done a bang-up job at encapsulating the ambiguities of contemporary digital life.
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RochaMalhada said 2807 days ago (July 15th, 2011)
king of long song titles
I had to laugh...

I really dig this, guess I never heard you sing like this - really fits you well, man

Cool tune, for sure.

. - Harold
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sammydix said 2806 days ago (July 16th, 2011)
i could feel tom's spirit. but what really stands out is the backing. it could even be an instrumental with some added touches. still it has some fine lyrics to go along with it so tat would be wasteful.
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jibes said 2804 days ago (July 18th, 2011)
Kinda bluesy cool sound. I like the bouncy bass too.
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Char said 2793 days ago (July 29th, 2011)
Some great channeling.
This experiment is a success. Love it. Thanks.
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